So one thing I learned with my first, who was born at 41 weeks 6 days almost 2 weeks “over due” (though probably was actually not that far along since my cycles were very irregular then and no idea when she was conceived and no early ultrasound to date her either), is that you NEVER say exact date, just rough general time. You’re not due “August 21″- you’re due the end of August, if not “early September” depending on how annoying and uninformed the person you are speaking to is. Even so many people will just hear “August” and not even note the “end” part meaning they expect you to give birth August 1 not realizing that would be 3 weeks early, possibly even prematurely if your dates are incorrect. Many are off by two weeks or more and since ovulation can occur ANYTIME, not the standard day 14 junk, unless you know exact day ovulation occurred, very hard to be certain. Even knowing when the sex that resulted in conception occurred may not be enough as semen can live upwards of a week if not more (rare but given ideal conditions, it could happen). The whole standard dating system is pretty iffy too and many question if 40 weeks since last menstrual period is correct (that would mean only 38 weeks of actual gestation). My daughter was born in early September despite her August due date and most people just heard August and come sundown on July 31, wanted to know if I had the baby yet:/ Going over due almost 2 weeks wasn’t bad for me but answering annoying people everyday, including my dad who called daily to ask, was HELL!
So here’s your cheat sheet- if you’re due before the 14th of any given month, just say you’re due “at the end of ____”. Now if you tend to go right around or before your due date and/or don’t want to worry people too much if your “February baby” comes “early” in January, you could say “mid ___”. The term “mid” is also nice because it’s even more ambiguous though if you’re on the cusp of two different months, only refer to the later one. So if you’re due anytime after the 14th, say you’re due “beginning of _______” (listing the following month so if January, say February and so forth). Then you’ll not only avoid annoying “you’re about to pop” comments (or at least minimize them), you also won’t have issues with people inquiring why you haven’t had the baby YET, which is about as appropriate for them to grill you about as to when your latest bowel movement was:/ Also typically many moms, especially first time ones, go about a week “over due” (which is a bull term anyways but this helps it not be so frustrating). If you go earlier than your due date then people more readily will realize this and perhaps offer more assistance since the baby was “early”. Not only are babies much easier to care for when still in the oven, letting them get nice and golden brown means they get a little boost to development. Remember that due dates are still just estimates that can vary by two weeks or more, and even if you’re “ok” to birth at 37 weeks, that baby could actually be more like 35 weeks gestation which is very worrisome.
Having the idea in your head that you’ll go longer rather than shorter helps mentally prepare you to endure those last few weeks which can get fairly uncomfortable, made so even more when you think baby should already be here. Having those around you in the same mindset helps reinforce this so just go with the “due month” idea NOT a “due date”.
So to see how this works, let’s look at February 2015 since it starts on a Sunday and is exactly 4 weeks long making it a great sample month. Let’s go over this a little:
if due 2/7, you’d be 39 weeks on 1/31, 38 on 1/24 so full term would only be from last week of January so people wouldn’t be too surprised if went a week early yet would grasp the seriousness of the situation should baby come a month early so say “mid February”
if due 2/14, 39 on 2/7, 38 on 1/31, 41 on 2/21 and 42 on 2/28 but still say “end of Feb” to avoid January speculation
if due 2/21, 39 on 2/14, 38 on 2/7, 41 on 2/28 and 42 on 3/7 so say at least “end of Feb” if not “beginning of March” depending on personal preference and how likely it is you’ll go into labor before your due date
if due 2/28 (39 on 2/21, 38 on 2/14, 41 on 3/7, 42 on 3/14) just say “beginning of March” or better yet “mid March” since even one day overdue will have people Facebook stalking you like mad!
So what’s your “due month”? Mine’s “March”;)